Wednesday Wisdom: Alice Nichols
2 April 2014 | 1 comment
An interview series designed to uncover what it is that real, wise women are made of – physically, mentally and spiritually.
I met today’s Wise Woman, Alice Nichols, about a year ago at a David Wolfe event. Such a beautiful lady, inside and out, as you will see as you read. Alice is Director of the award winning site The Whole Daily, and is a Life Coach specifically supporting women to live well, heal their body’s and love themselves. Alice learnt for herself how to transform that place of darkness and fear into pure love, and this is part of what she teaches. As you read, you will see how she wrestled with alcohol for many years before taking her power back through love. Alice also has a fantastic programme called The Life Transformation Project, a 4 week immersion into mindfulness, meditation, movement and diet, to support women in looking after themselves and remove emotional blocks in their lives. I highly recommend you check it out! So, please meet Alice…
Can you tell us about your personal special gift you have to share with the world?
I teach women how to live well, heal their body’s and love themselves. This encompasses a loving and ‘present’ mindset, a cleansing, anti-inflammatory lifestyle diet and a heap of support for dream catching. Women who work with me tell me they feel like I help them bust through a lot of blocks they have in life that get in the way of happiness and health and do so in a simple, loving and supportive manner.
How do you nourish your body?
I start by nourishing my mind. I truly believe that that which we feed our thoughts with effects what we feed our body with and then what we ultimately become. When I was younger I struggled with self-esteem. I put myself down and harboured negative thoughts, harsh comparisons and the belief that I was ‘owed’ by the Universe for coping through a tough childhood. I had an eating disorder, I struggled with alcohol abuse and a toxic relationship with my body as well as inviting some seriously shitty relationships into my life. Today I practice mindful thought over my consciousness, I look always to see either the positive in any event or for a lesson. I know that I am the guardian of each moment in my life. Because I love myself I choose foods that love me back. I don’t eat chemicals, and I follow an anti-inflammatory diet 98% of the time. No gluten, dairy, sugar or alcohol and few nightshades (capsicum, tomato’s eggplant, silver beet, spinach). There is a strong history of degenerative rheumatoid arthritis in my family and when I was drinking heavily and eating a lot of breads and pasta’s I used to have to lay on the floor to do my stiletto’s up. I was 26. Now I move much more freely, though as soon as I so much as have a slice of pizza or bread, that is me in the morning on the floor again. Food is really that powerful. I wish that we could all drop the junk to see just how much we can learn from what our bodies do tell us.
How do you feed your soul?
I go to the beach and throw my arms open wide. If I’m with my girls we do it together running wildly from one side of the beach to the other. I read a lot of books from people who are creating enlightenment within their own lives and seeing so much synchronicity with my own. I cook, or garden. I earth myself.
What has brought you to your knees?
Great question. I have had a 15 year struggle to try to moderate my alcohol consumption to no avail and too many times in my twenties I was literally in that position, on my knees, (why do we seem to do this on the bathroom floor girls?) crying or shaking with shame, guilt or fear at what I was doing to myself when it came to alcohol. Or wondering what I had done to myself, or those that I loved. I never broke down in front of anyone. I allowed this crippling black weight to grow as I vainly tried to ‘be like everyone else’ or feign happiness with my life. I looked to others to judge who I should be and I couldn’t figure out why I was so scarred, so weak, so ‘unable’. For anyone who is in this situation, and I know a lot are, there is a battle waged in the mind on a daily basis that consumes creativity, love, health and life in general and hold you back from being who you really are. There is only one road out of that.
What was it that pulled you back on your feet?
Love. For myself. Making love bigger than fear. If all decisions in life are made out of love or fear, and I believe they are, I made love bigger. I literally said to myself daily “I don’t drink because I love myself”. You could insert anything in there you like. It’s the showing up and consciously thinking it that makes it happen. Every single day.
What do you think the purpose of life is?
To Love. Simple. If we could all stop trying to make it so complicated and make decisions from this point onwards we would have world peace. It is that simple.
What has been your most humbling experience?
For 15 years I was so scared to share openly my battle with alcohol and my pain at not being able to control it. It wasn’t until I decided to just get it all out there and share my story for all to hear that I got resounding applause back. I’m not saying this to boast, I’m saying it because I was so frightened of this for so long and carried that weight, but on the other side of that fear was actually the most amazing freedom I have ever known. It leaves me open to receiving the best in my life and of course opens me to a truth I had been pushing down for so long. That everything you want is on the other side of fear.
How do you deal with stress?
I practice mindfulness daily, in as many situations as I have consciousness enough to do so. This is increasing the more I practice. When an event or situation occurs that would make me feel stressed I ask myself something. “What is the truth of the situation”. For example, when I was stuck behind a driver at a light and got stressed that I was running late and angry at being stuck I realised that the only truth in the situation was that I was in my car in that spot at that time. The feeling of stress, anger or frustration was actually my creation, not the truth. That means instead I chose to own ‘acceptance’, looked to the sky and saw clouds rolling past in the most amazing patterns (I then got beeped for being the di*khead stuck at the lights by the dude behind me…)
We need to be conscious enough to recognise what is real and what is not, or our own controllable creation before we can be truly happy in our lives. The energy that we put out into the world is what comes back to us in spades.
Favourite quote, mantra or affirmation?
This quote changed my life. I share it with all of my clients and in The Life Transformation Project we live this quote.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
What is one pearl of wisdom you can leave us with? When you’re stuck with anything at all – ask yourself , “What would love do”.
Do you have a recipe/remedy/words/art you would like to share?
Oh yes! These are my lemon and macadamia bars and I can’t make them fast enough for them to survive more than 2 minutes in my house. They’re flavoured with pure essential oil, some of which most people don’t realise they can also ingest and can be very calming and healing. I also use Lucuma powder which gives a delicious caramel flavour and is, of course, a super food.
Lemon and Macadamia Bars
REFINED SUGAR FREE • GLUTEN FREE • DAIRY FREE • HEALTHY FATS • ENERGY DENSE
- 1 cup macadamias
- 1/4 cups cashews
- 1 cup medjool dates (make sure there are no pits in your dates)
- 2 tbls lucuma Powder
- 6 drops (cold pressed) pure lemon oil
- 1 dssp tahini
- Pinch of himalayan salt
- 2 tbls coconut oil
- Process macadamia’s + cashews until a course powder.
- Add finely chopped dates and coconut oil + the rest of your ingredients and process until combined.
- Press into a baking paper lined flat tray (I use a 20 x 20cm one) and place in the fridge to set slightly.
- Cut up and wrap for the kids or eat straight out of the tray.
…um….yum!!!! Thank you Alice! If you would like to keep in touch, you can find her here: